Sunday Steeplechase: “Recognizing Blessedness” – First Presbyterian Church of San Leandro (California)

First Presbyterian Church, San Leandro, California (Laurie Snyder, ©2011).

First Presbyterian Church, San Leandro, California (Laurie Snyder, ©2011).

And seeing the multitudes, he went up into a mountain: and when he was set, his disciples came unto him. And he opened his mouth, and taught them, saying:

  • Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
  • Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
  • Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.
  • Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.
  • Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.
  • Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.
  • Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
  • Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness’ sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
  • Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.
  • Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.

– Matthew 5:1-12 (King James Version)

“We are called to bear one another’s burdens – to bind each other’s wounds and to meet each other’s needs,” said the Rev. Dr. Anne Swanson during a recent February morning at the First Presbyterian Church of San Leandro in California. Her sermon that day, “Recognizing Blessedness,” was infused not just with the poignant “need Beatitudes,” a portion of the Bible which starkly conveys the painful vulnerability experienced daily by men, women and children worldwide, but the compelling “help Beatitudes” – the teachings of Matthew which remind us that we each have it within us to make our communities and world kinder and more just.

Rev. Dr. Swanson and her flock are members of a reformed branch of the Protestant tradition. Their church, which was organized in 1866, opened its sanctuary in 1926 and still towers over one of the main thoroughfares in the city of San Leandro. It is governed by 12 elders and 24 deacons, who were elected to their terms of service by their fellow congregants and are responsible for preparing the elements for communion, delivering flowers and providing to services and special events.

A youth center and educational wing were added in 1953 and 1955, respectively. Today, attendees benefit from a robust array of fellowship activities from breakfast clubs to a Young at Heart group for senior citizens and monthly prayer shawl gathering. As part of its music ministry, the church offers Chancel and Children’s Choir programs and a summer camp for handbell enthusiasts.

But it is the individual and collective social justice activities of members which deliver the greatest insight into the soul of First Presbyterian’s congregation. Whether housing visiting university students who volunteer with Habitat for Humanity projects, or fighting domestic violence and sex trafficking through their support of Building Futures and San Francisco Safe House, helping terminally ill children and their families find comfort at the George Mark Children’s House, or easing suffering on a global scale through their support of Compassion International, Heifer International and Presbyterian Disaster Assistance, First Presbyterian congregants banish darkness with warmth and compassion.

“Ye are the light of the world,” wrote Matthew. “And it giveth light unto all that are in the house.” Indeed.

If You Go:

First Presbyterian Church of San Leandro
180 Estudillo Avenue
San Leandro, California
(510) 483-2772

Five Things for Women to Do Post-Divorce

Bullseye (Laurie Snyder, ©1999-present).

Bullseye (Laurie Snyder, ©1999-present).

Almost everyone who has ever gone through it will tell you that the loss of a loved one can be hard on the body and the mind. Scientists have said for years, in fact, that it can be hazardous to one’s health.

According to a 2009 WebMD report, “Divorce and the death of a spouse frequently have long-term negative consequences for health, even in people who remarry.” De-partnered adults have a 20 percent higher risk for cancer, diabetes and heart disease and a 23 percent greater likelihood of problems walking or climbing stairs. While those rates decline after remarriage, they respectively remain 12 and 19 percent higher than in the non-divorced/non-widowed.

Often, this is because stressed-out individuals skimp on self-care – failing to exercise or eat properly and avoiding doctors’ visits.

So, what can be done if you’ve “consciously uncoupled” via divorce? Create a “new journey plan” using these tips:

Meditation Class (National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health, public domain).

1. Engage in Constructive Self-Care.

Whether you fly solo for a trip to the beach or schedule a weekend getaway with your best gal pal, take time to rejuvenate. Celebrate your resilience and cleanse yourself of the stress you’ve endured by treating yourself to a well-deserved, but affordable massage at a hotel or spa.

 

Jell-O Ad, American Cookery, 1914 (public domain)2. Put Your Money House in Order.

Determine exactly how much money you have. Then, once those pesky brain cobwebs have been cleared away, take a finance class to learn what you need to do to nurture that nest egg.

 

Kandinsky's "A Riding Amazon," 1917 (public domain)3. Get “Back in the Saddle Again” Socially.

Channel your inner Georgia O’Keeffe via art class, learn Latin dancing, or join a book club or bowling league. From New Jersey Yoga for People Dealing with Divorce to Chicago’s 21st Century Salon for Single Boomerettes, there are literally hundreds of groups that can help you regain your confident, blissful stride.

Just be sure whatever programs you choose are priced to fit your post-divorce budget and offered by trustworthy service providers.

 

Old Appleton Sign (public domain).

4. Set and Maintain Clear Boundaries with Your Ex.

If you decide to remain friends, define the new parameters of your relationship before resuming interaction post-divorce; then adhere to those restrictions.

Because, while spending Valentine’s Day with him or opting for a “friends with benefits” hook-up may seem like a good idea when you’re lonesome, it only causes confusion for him – and frustration for you when his pressure to continue those visits derails your plan to find a more compatible new love.

 

No Valentine's Day (public domain)5. Preserve Your Alone Time for as Long as Possible.

Discomfort with loneliness is normal post-divorce, but if it drives you into remarrying too quickly, you’ll waste the precious opportunity you’ve been given to regain your sense of self.

Hope for new love, but learn to love the mindfulness kindled by solitude!

 

Image Sources: All images used for this article, EXCEPT BULLSEYE, are in the public domain: 1.) Massage class, National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health; 2.) Jell-O advertisement, American Cookery, 1914; 3.) A Riding Amazon, Wassily Kandinsky, 1917, National Art Museum of Azerbaijan; 4.) City sign, Old Appleton, Missouri; 5.) No Valentine’s Day.

 

 

 

A Teenager, the Holocaust and a Pendant: How One Young Girl’s Rediscovered Jewelry Is Inspiring Others to ‘Never Forget’

On the reverse of the Cohn pendant are the words "Mazal Tov," the Hebrew letter "ה" and three Stars of David. (Photo provided courtesy of Yoram Haimi, Israel Antiquities Authority and Yad Vashem.)

On the reverse of the Cohn pendant from Sobibór are the words “Mazel Tov,” the Hebrew letter “ה” and three Stars of David. (Photo provided courtesy of Yoram Haimi, Israel Antiquities Authority and Yad Vashem.)

 

Original train platforms where hundreds of thousands of Jewish men, women and children disembarked from cattle cars before being herded to gas chambers. Ovens and other machinery of murder. The bracelets of children.

Historians affiliated with Yad Vashem have been making major breakthroughs in Holocaust research for decades – findings which should be of great interest to contemplative travelers with an interest in World War II, Jewish or Polish history and genealogical research.

One of the most startling discoveries came to light recently when an archaeologist spotted a pendant on the “Pathway to Heaven” – the trail trod by Jewish men, women and children en route to the gas chambers at Sobibór, the Nazi extermination camp near Wlodawa, Poland. Researchers believe this pendant, engraved with Hebrew letter “ה” (for God’s name), the words “Mazel Tov”, and three Stars of David, was owned by Karoline Cohn, a teenager from Frankfurt, Germany.

Stone Pendant Found at Sobibor (photo provided courtesy of Israel Antiquities Authority and Yad Vashem).

Stone pendant found at Sobibór. (Photo provided courtesy of Israel Antiquities Authority and Yad Vashem.)

Also found during excavations were a glass-covered, metal locket inscribed with the “Shema” prayer and adorned with an image of Moses cradling the Ten Commandments, a Star of David necklace, a stone pendant, a ring, and woman’s watch.

Why Are the Sobibór Discoveries So Important?

“These recent findings from the excavations at Sobibór constitute an important contribution to the documentation and commemoration of the Holocaust, and help us to better understand what happened at Sobibór, both in terms of the camp’s function and also from the point of view of the victims,” explains Professor Havi Dreifuss, who heads Yad Vashem’s Center for Research on the Holocaust in Poland.

Built in Poland’s Lublin district, the Sobibór death camp was named after a neighboring village, began its operations in March 1942 as part of Aktion Reinhard (the Holocaust’s deadliest period) and became one of the most horrifically efficient facilities used by Nazis to exterminate Jews.

This sad success was largely attributable to SS-Obersturmführer Franz Stangl, who began his reign of terror as camp commandant – a post he held until August of that same year when he was ordered to take over management of the Germans’ Treblinka death camp. Nicknamed “The White Death” for his whip and white uniform, Stangl not only oversaw Sobibór’s completion, but so refined the extermination techniques employed there that they were then implemented at other Nazi forced labor and death camps throughout the Nazi’s web of terror and depravity.

Under Stangl, Sobibór guards led roughly 100,000 Jewish men, women and children to their deaths. He then moved on to Treblinka, where he facilitated the murder of another 12,000 to 22,000 Jews per day, and was succeeded at Sobibór by Franz Reichleitner, whose own subordinates then ramped up their killing of several hundred thousand more until Sobibór’s closing following a prisoner uprising and escape on Oct. 14, 1943. Days later, after the camp’s surviving Jews were executed, Reichsfuhrer-SS Heinrich Himmler ordered that all traces of Sobibór be erased. The gas chambers were dismantled, the buildings destroyed, and trees were planted to camouflage the area.

But this dedicated team of archaeologists will not let the world forget.

Sobibor excavations uncovered signs of mechanical equipment use by Nazis to dismantle the camp. (Photo provided courtesy of Yoram Haimi, Israel Antiquities Authority.)

Sobibór excavations uncovered signs of mechanical equipment use by Nazis to dismantle the camp. (Photo provided courtesy of Yoram Haimi, Israel Antiquities Authority.)

At its peak of operations, Sobibór was a 1312-by-1969-foot rectangle, divided into administration, reception and extermination areas, and surrounded by a “barbed-wire fence, woven with tree branches” – a design “intended to hide from view what was inside,” according to Yad Vashem representatives. “Jews brought in by transport were taken directly to the reception area. The extermination area held: gas chambers, burial trenches, and housing for the Jewish prisoners who worked there. The gas chambers – built to look like shower rooms, could hold 160-180 people each, and were fueled by carbon monoxide gas.”

The vast majority of Jews brought to the camp were taken immediately to the “showers,” where the women and children were separated from the men. “The Nazis ordered the victims to remove their clothing and hand over their valuables…. They were beaten, screamed at, and warning shots were fired at them. About 450-550 Jews were forced into the chambers at a time. The gas chambers were sealed…. Poisonous gas was then piped in. Within 20-30 minutes, all those inside were dead.”

Members of the Sonderkommando – the roughly 1,000 Jewish men and women who were permitted to live because they had been deemed to be the strongest from each arriving train – then removed the gold teeth from each body and buried the dead. “The whole process, from arrival to burial, took only two or three hours. During that time, prisoners were forced to clean the railroad cars, after which the trains left and another 20 cars entered the camp.”

Cohn, the reported owner of the pendant, appears to have lost her life during Reichleitner’s tenure. According to archaeologists and historians at the Israel Antiquities Authority and Dr. Joel Zissenwein, Director of Yad Vashem’s Deportations Database Project, the teenage Cohn was deported from Frankfurt to Minsk on Nov. 11, 1941; the pendant then reached Sobibór sometime between that time and Sept. 1943, when the camp received its last transports of victims – trains from the Jewish ghettos of Lida, Minsk and Vilna.

“While it is not known if Cohn survived the harsh conditions in the Minsk ghetto,” explains Zissenwein, “the pendant belonging to 14-year-old Karoline Cohn was taken, dropped [along the path to Sobibór’s gas chambers], and remained buried in the ground for over 70 years.”

Karoline Cohn's pendant found at Sobibor (front view showing Hebrew words "Mazel Tov" and Cohn's birthdate: July 3, 1929; photo provided courtesy of Israel Antiquities Authority and Yad Vashem).

Karoline Cohn’s pendant found at Sobibór (front view showing Hebrew words “Mazel Tov” and Cohn’s birthdate: July 3, 1929; photo provided courtesy of Israel Antiquities Authority and Yad Vashem).

And, of course, “It is important to tell the story, so that we never forget,” says Israel Antiquities Authority archaeologist Yoram Haimi. “The moving story of Karoline Cohn is symbolic of the shared fate of the Jews murdered in the camp.”

The find may also be important for another reason as well, say researchers. Cohn’s pendant “bears close resemblance to one owned by Anne Frank,” the teenage diary author who died in Nazi captivity following her discovery at her Amsterdam sanctuary. Researchers theorize that there may have been family ties between Frank and Cohn because both girls were born in Frankfurt and owned similar pendants. They are hoping relatives of either the Cohn or Frank families will contact them with information that can help them prove or disprove this theory.

More information about Karoline Cohn may be found in the Pages of Testimony completed for Richard Else Cohn and Karoline Cohn by Sophie Kollmann in April 1978. Relatives of the Cohn family or Sophie Kollmann or any member of the public who can assist with details are urged to contact Yoram Haimi via email yoramhi@israntique.org.il.  

 

 If You’re Interested in Visiting Sobibór:

  • Plan before you go. The Sobibór Museum has been closed at times in recent years due to financial issues. Currently, it is considered to be part of the State Museum at Majdanek. While admission is free and individuals and groups are encouraged to visit this state museum and its branches at the former Nazi concentration camps of Bełżec, Majdanek and Sobibór, there are certain rules which must be followed:1.) Dress appropriately. Wear attire suitable for a memorial service or cemetery visit and comfortable shoes for walking; 2.) Do not bring children under the age of 14 to the museum or camp sites; 3.) Be respectful to staff, your fellow visitors and the memories of the men, women and children who suffered and died at the camp sites. Be quiet, turn your cell phone off, and follow any instructions given to you by the Museum’s guides, guards or exhibition staff; and 4.) Remember that the following are also prohibited at the museum and camp sites: alcohol and other intoxicants; animals (except guide dogs); eating; and smoking, using candles or starting other open fires. Please see the Museum’s website for hours and additional visitor guidelines.
  • Lodging and Transportation: Several travelers who have visited multiple Holocaust sites suggest booking hotel rooms near intended destinations in Poland, and then driving by to the Holocaust museum or concentration camp sites on your itinerary. When visiting Sobibór, lodging at the Czar Polesia Hotel, which is located in Wlodawa – roughly 20 miles from the camp, comes highly recommended by these same travelers. Others who have booked rooms here describe it as a clean, well run, family business offering reasonably priced, comfortable lodging and inexpensive, but delicious homemade food.

 

 

Meditation Mondays: Finding Peace in a New Year

Great Blue Heron (U.S. National Park Service, public domain).

Great Blue Heron (U.S. National Park Service, public domain).

 

…. I come into the peace of wild things
who do not tax their lives with forethought
of grief. I come into the presence of still water.
And I feel above me the day-blind stars
waiting with their light. For a time
I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.

– Wendell Berry*

 

* Excerpt from The Peace of Wild Things, in The Selected Poems of Wendell Berry, Counterpoint Press, 1999. To read the full text of this poem and listen to Wendell Berry read his work, visit On Being for Krista Tippett’s 2011 NPR interview with the author.

To learn more about the environmentalist-poet Wendell Berry, please read his Poetry Foundation biography, which also provides links to several of his other works.

 

 

Cities of the Dead: The Cementerio de Cristóbal Colón (Colon Cemetery, Havana, Cuba)

Praying Angel (Necropolis de Colon, Havana, Cuba, Carol Highsmith, 2010, U.S. Library of Congress, public domain).

Praying Angel (Necropolis de Colón, Havana, Cuba, Carol Highsmith, 2010, U.S. Library of Congress, public domain).

 

The Cementerio de Cristóbal Colón – named in honor of Christopher Columbus, but known more commonly as the Colon Cemetery – has long been one of the world’s most significant cities of the dead, notable as much for the storied histories of its permanent residents as the architectural and artistic achievements created to celebrate their lives.

The byways offer a startling contrast of exquisite, carefully tended chapels and dazzling white mausoleums – and ruins composed of tombs now empty of their former inhabitants or still occupied but poorly maintained since being reluctantly forsaken decades ago by families who fled Fidel Castro’s takeover of Cuba to live abroad in exile.

Home to pianists, poets and the revered and reviled political figures of Cuba’s greatest struggles, the Colon Cemetery opened its first grave in Havana in 1876 and has, since that time, become the final resting place of more than one million.

Colon Cemetery, Havana, Cuba (northern gate sans statues, pre-1901, public domain).

Colon Cemetery, Havana, Cuba (northern gate sans statues, pre-1901, public domain).

Situated in Havana’s Vedado neighborhood, this 140-acre necropolis was built above the abandoned Espada Cemetery, the city’s first true graveyard. (Prior to Espada’s opening in 1806, Havana’s dead were laid to rest in the crypts of local church catacombs. Planning for the Colon Cemetery began following a series of cholera epidemics throughout the early to mid-1800s, and intensified in 1868 when locals realized there would be a need for a larger space for their community’s dead when Cuba and other Caribbean nations were ravaged by both cholera and yellow fever.

Among the most famous interred here are José Raúl Capablanca y Graupera (1888-1942), one of the world’s greatest chess masters; first baseman and Cuban Baseball Hall of Famer Julián Castillo Calderón de la Barça (1880-1948); anti-communist and anti-corruption crusader Eduardo René Chibás Ribas (1907-1951); Cuban patriot Candelaria Figueredo (1852-1914); research pioneer Carlos Juan Finlay (1833-1915), who identified the mosquito-yellow fever link; Nicolás Cristóbal Guillén Batista (1902-1989), a national poet of Cuba; and photographer Alberto Díaz Gutiérrez (1928-2001; also known as Alberto Korda), who immortalized Argentina revolutionary Che Guevara via his Guerrillero Heroico.

The first occupant of this Latin American city of the dead was its primary architect – Calixto Arellano de Loira y Cardoso. Like Père Lachaise, France’s legendary necropolis, Loira’s Cementerio de Cristóbal Colón is a mini-city, traversable via its main boulevards (the Avenida Cristobal Colón, Obispo Espada and Obispo Fray Jacinto), as well as off-shooting side streets. In dividing his cemetery into quarters, Loira ensured that, even in death, the dead would remain stratified – interred in defined “neighborhoods” – pigeonholed by their respective economic circumstances, occupations, spiritual beliefs, and social classifications.

It is all too possible then, while walking away from the most beautiful avenues and their ostentatious memorials to encounter groupings of children, criminals, impoverished community members felled by disease, and Cubans who experienced religious or political persecution in their lifetimes.

Central Chapel, Colon Cemetery, Havana, Cuba (public domain).

Central Chapel, Colon Cemetery, Havana, Cuba (public domain).

The most mindful of travelers, however, are given ample opportunity, to also elevate their thoughts. Standing before The Three Theological Virtues, a massive Carrara marble sculpture depicting faith, hope and charity, the Gate of Peace, and the cemetery’s Central Chapel, which evokes Florence, Italy’s Il Duomo, one feels hope for the future of humanity.

And memorials to Cuba’s baseball and firefighter heroes remind us all that, despite whatever differences we may have as nations, we share a common love as individuals for much of what makes life worth living.

Firemens Memorial Detail (Necropolis de Colon, Havana, Cuba. Carol Highsmith, 2010, U.S. Library of Congress, public domain).

Firemen’s Memorial Detail (Necropolis de Colón, Havana, Cuba. Carol Highsmith, 2010, U.S. Library of Congress, public domain).

But it is the angels which top children’s graves, winged hourglasses, inverted torches, grief-stricken faces on stunningly beautiful sculptures, and other finely wrought touches that provide even more poignant moments – perhaps the most enlightening of all for those willing to linger a bit longer than most planned tour groups typically do.

For it is here, standing in the presence of those whose names have been preserved for eternity, that it is possible to reflect most deeply on the fragility of the human heart and the endurance of collective memory.

If You Go:

Embassy of Cuba in the U.S.A. (Tourist Visa applications and other consular services).

Smart Traveler Enrollment Program (travel registration and assistance service from the U.S. Department of State’s Bureau of Consular Affairs).

Traveling to Cuba (travel requirements, tips and other resources from the U.S. Embassy in Cuba).

 

 

 

 

 

On Travel, Mindfulness and Understanding

Skiing at Hardangervidda (near Vegglifjell, Norway, c. 2014, public domain).

Skiing at Hardangervidda (near Vegglifjell, Norway, c. 2014, public domain).

 

 

“There is one way to understand another culture. Living it.

Move into it, ask to be tolerated as a guest, learn the language. At some point understanding may come. It will always be wordless.

The moment you grasp what is foreign, you will lose the urge to explain it. To explain a phenomenon is to distance yourself from it.”

– Peter Høeg, Smilla’s Sense of Snow*

 

* From Smilla’s Sense of Snow, Farrar, Straus and Giroux’s 1993 translation of Danish writer Peter Høeg’s novel, Miss Smilla’s Feeling for Snow.

 

 

Ten Fireplace Book Curl-ups for Your Wintry Staycation

Fire in Fireplace (2006, public domain).

Fire in Fireplace (2006, public domain).

 

My regular self-care behavior also includes mindfulness meditation … yoga at least twice a week … going on retreats/holidays … going for walks around the block, looking for beauty to connect with, and breathing deeply. Oh, and eating dark chocolate with a cup of hot tea and only doing that. No multitasking, just enjoying that. – Kim Boivin, registered clinical counselor, Vancouver

 

Whether you’re re-reading one of the world’s great classics or cracking open the season’s newest releases, winter staycations are the perfect time to practice self-care while also catching up on your reading. Research has shown that not only can reading increase a person’s empathy, but it has the power to keep brains healthy. Time spent with a good book is so beneficial, in fact, that it is a stress buster that may also help you ward off Alzheimer’s Disease.

In 2009, researchers from Sussex University and Mindlab International demonstrated that reading “works better and faster than other methods to calm frazzled nerves such as listening to music, going for a walk or settling down with a cup of tea,” according to an article in The Telegraph. “Psychologists believe this is because the human mind has to concentrate on reading and the distraction of being taken into a literary world eases the tensions in muscles and the heart.”

Study participants who read for just six minutes or listened to music were able to reduce muscle tension and heart rates by a whopping 68 and 61 percent, respectively, while those lingering over a cup of tea saw improvements of up to 54 percent. Surprisingly, walkers were only able to achieve a reduction of 42 percent.

And video gamers? Well, let’s just say, “Step away from the console. Your hearts will thank you.”

So stop feeling guilty for taking time out of your busy life to enjoy your favorite pastime. Throw a log on the fire, uncork that bottle of wine, and grab your warm, soft blankie and a plateful of chocolate truffles, because it’s time for a bit of self-care.

Pick the Opening Lines Which Most Intrigue You, Then Grab the Book

  • “Call me Ishmael.”: Herman Melville’s 1851 classic, Moby Dick, is the perfect vessel for contemplating the consequences of anger and revenge.
  • “Days before our field trip to the science center, Mrs. Bermudez tells our class the sun is actually hundreds of times larger than the earth. We move around it. We’re nothing zooming through dark space, she says, matter-of-factly, as if it didn’t matter that we were no longer the center of our own little worlds.”: Richard Blanco’s 2013 memoir, For All of Us, One Today: An Inaugural Poet’s Journey, reminds readers the world over of the common ground they share.
  • “It’s freezing – an extraordinary 0° Fahrenheit – and it’s snowing, and in the language that is no longer mine, the snow is qanik – big, almost weightless crystals falling in clumps and covering the ground with a layer of pulverized white frost.”: Smilla’s Sense of Snow, Farrar, Straus and Giroux’s 1993 translation of Danish writer Peter Høeg’s novel, Miss Smilla’s Feeling for Snow, guides readers into dark subject matter, accompanied by the lamp of exquisite prose.
  • “It was a bright and cold day in April, and the clocks were striking thirteen.”: George Orwell’s 1949 prescient classic, 1984, remains fresh and relevant for today’s troubled world.
  • “Marley was dead: to begin with. There is no doubt whatever about that. The register of his burial was signed by the clergyman, the clerk, the undertaker, and the chief mourner. Scrooge signed it: and Scrooge’s name was good upon ’Change, for anything he chose to put his hand to. Old Marley was as dead as a door-nail.”: Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol, has been a guide for readers of all ages to what really matters most in life since its release in 1843.
  • “On the ferry from Hyannis to Alice Island, Amelia Loman paints her nails yellow and, while waiting for them to dry, skims her predecessor’s notes. ‘Island Books, approximately $350,000.00 per annum in sales, the better portion of that in the summer months to folks on holiday…. Six hundred square feet of selling space. No full-time employees other than the owner. Very small children’s section. Fledgling online presence. Poor community outreach. Inventory emphasizes the literary…. Luckily for him, Island’s the only game in town.’ Amelia yawns – she’s nursing a slight hangover – and wonders if one persnickety little bookstore will be worth such a long trip.”: Gabrielle Zevin’s 2014 The Storied Life of A. J. Fikry has been described as a tale of redemption and a love letter to bibliophiles and bookstore owners everywhere.
  • “The first thing everyone notices is the dog.”: Luis Carlos Montalvan’s 2011 bestseller, Until Tuesday: A Wounded Warrior and the Golden Retriever Who Saved Him, is an inspiring, true story of love, devotion and hope, and is a must read for anyone needing a morale boost and everyone who love animals.
  • “The great gray beast February had eaten Harvey Swick alive.”: Clive Barker’s 1992 The Thief of Always needs to be at the top of the reading list for anyone who has ever bemoaned boredom.
  • “Until I began to build and launch rockets, I didn’t know my hometown was at war with itself over its children and that my parents were locked in a kind of bloodless combat over how my brother and I would live our lives.”: Homer Hickam’s 1998 coming of age bestseller, Rocket Boys, captures life in America’s declining coal mining communities of the 1950s, and sets those joys and hardships against the backdrop of the globe’s greatest space race, creating one of those rare books worth sharing with friends and family.
  • “You better not never tell nobody but God.”: Alice Walker’s Pulitzer Prize winning, The Color Purple, shines a powerful light on the best and worst of human behaviors, delivering a timeless meditation on hope and the capacity of women to triumph over adversity.

 

* Excerpt from How Clinicians Practice Self-Care & 9 Tips for Readers.

 

 

Cities of the Dead: Metairie Cemetery (New Orleans, Louisiana)

Moorish Details, Tomb of Laure Beauregard Larendon, Metairie Cemetery, New Orleans, Louisiana (Laurie Snyder, © 1997).

Moorish Details, Tomb of Laure Beauregard Larendon, Metairie Cemetery, New Orleans (Laurie Snyder, © 1997).

 

 

Twenty thousand roads I went down, down, down
And all led me straight back home to you.

– Thomas Brown and Gram Parsons, Return Of The Grievous Angel (1973)

 

There are burial places, and then there are burial destinations – cities of the dead so well-conceived and constructed that they have become meccas not just for the world’s movers and shakers, but for mindful travelers because they inspire intense contemplation of life’s greatest mysteries – life and death, the inevitability of change, hope.

Among the greatest of the world’s great cities of the dead is Louisiana’s Metairie Cemetery. Although less well known than Père Lachaise in Paris or New Orleans’ Saint Louis Cemetery No. 1 (the reputed final resting place of Voodoo Queen Marie Laveau), Metairie should be on the bucket list of travelers with an interest in the arts or contemplative travel.

The place to see and be seen in the afterlife since the property’s post-Civil War transformation from a horseracing track to a city of the dead, Metairie’s sprawling grounds are actually located within the boundaries of “The Big Easy” even though this necropolis bears the name of the community next door.

Navigation Canal, Metairie Cemetery, New Orleans (c. 1900-1910, Detroit Publishing, Library of Congress, public domain).

Navigation Canal, Metairie Cemetery, New Orleans (c. 1900-1910, Detroit Publishing, Library of Congress, public domain).

Officially chartered in 1872, the buildings and grounds are awe-inspiring. With mausoleums adorned with spectacular stained glass and sculptures as finely wrought as any found in the world’s most revered art museums and cathedrals, this cemetery seamlessly blends Louisiana’s native natural beauty with American history.

Among those interred here are men and women who played prominent roles during the Civil War, luminaries of America’s stage and screen, several U.S. Congressmen, nine Louisiana governors, jazz trumpeter Al Hirt (1922-1999), Big Band Leader and “King of Swing” Louis Prima (1910-1978), Baseball Hall of Famer Mel Ott (1909-1958), ‘60s rocker Gram Parsons (1946-1973), and business tycoons, including Popeye’s Chicken founder Al Copeland (1944-2008) and Ruth Fertel (1927-2002).

Fertel, a pioneering restaurateur who also happened to be the first woman licensed in Louisiana as a thoroughbred horse trainer, knew a good thing when she saw it. After purchasing a money-losing New Orleans steak house in the 1960s, she taught herself to butcher meat and then learned everything else she needed to know to make her business blossom – including the most effective ways to attract celebrity customers. Edwin Edwards was regular while still a sitting governor of Louisiana, as was ’50s music great Fats Domino.

A generous and personable woman, Fertel made  lifelong friends as she blazed her unique trail by funding numerous charitable causes and building a workforce of single mothers to staff her increasingly popular chain of fine-dining restaurants – Ruth’s Chris Steak House. (The business name may have been clunky throughout the chain’s history, but the food and customer service have consistently been divine with restaurants across the nation regularly receiving ratings of four stars and above.)

Determined to maintain her alliance with longtime business partner Lana Duke well into the afterlife, Fertel persuaded Duke to plan, build and jointly maintain a mausoleum for their respective families. Their commissioned artisans labored from 1995 to 1999 to create a truly memorable work of art.

Dubbed the “ultimate retirement spot” in a July 2000 Associated Press story, the granite Fertel-Duke structure was erected “on a square 27-foot plot under moss-draped trees on the edge of a bayou.” Incorporating stunning “black columns and stained glass windows,” it cost an estimated $125,000 to $500,000. After the final touches were put in place, Fertel and Duke then:

invited 150 friends and family to a party … with tables of food, a band and guided tours of the sunset-beige tomb – as a celebration of life’s last stage. ‘We call it our last double,’ Fertel said, referring to a traditional style of housing in New Orleans with two separate living areas contained in a house. ‘We each have a side and plenty of room for our families.’

Why Build “Homes” and “Cities” for the Dead?

Metairie Cemetery, New Orleans (street view, c. 1900, Detroit Publishing, Library of Congress, public domain).

Metairie Cemetery, New Orleans (street view, c. 1900, Detroit Publishing, Library of Congress, public domain).

Although the price for residency in the Metairie Cemetery and other “afterlife retirement villages” may seem jaw dropping, other notables who have built similarly stunning tombs have made every penny count by employing a surprisingly modern and green strategy – recycling. At the dawn of the 21st century, according to the AP, Louisiana law permitted human “remains to be removed from the casket a year and a day after the death,” and then “deposited in a special cache in the tomb, the old coffin discarded and the space reused.”

But the biggest motivation of all for building grand mausoleums still seems to be the old adage that funerals and burials are never about the individuals who have passed on, but are undertaken for the living – a philosophy which Fertel clearly embraced when she expressed her hope that the “ambience” of her final resting place would “encourage visitors to linger.”

Mindful travelers understand that such encouragement to linger and reflect is meant not just for the families and friends of those interred at the world’s great cities of the dead, but for anyone wishing to contemplate the nature of change and impermanence of life – or simply to be comforted by the knowledge that loved ones are never really gone as long as the sounds of their laughter and their smiles are remembered.

 

If You Go:

Life Goes On (Metairie Cemetery, New Orleans, Laurie Snyder, © 1997).

Life Goes On (Metairie Cemetery, New Orleans, Laurie Snyder, © 1997).

 

Metairie Cemetery: 5100 Pontchartrain Boulevard, New Orleans, Louisiana

Selections for Meditation and Mindfulness Practice:

 

 

 

Thursday Temple Tour: Orgyen Dorje Den (Alameda, California)

Orgyen Dorje Den, Alameda, California (left shrine detail, public domain).

Orgyen Dorje Den, Alameda, California (left shrine detail, public domain).

“Eventually you will find yourself in a state where your mind is clear and open all the time. It is just like when the clouds are removed from the sky and the sun can clearly be seen, shining all the time. This is coming close to the state of liberation, liberation from all traces of suffering.”

– The Venerable Gyatrul Rinpoche, founder of Orgyen Dorje Den

Standing proudly on Santa Clara Avenue, one of the busiest thoroughfares in the San Francisco Bay Area’s East Bay city of Alameda, is an oasis of serenity – Orgyen Dorje Den, a Northern California Yeshe Nyingpo Center for the Study of Tibetan Buddhism in the Nyingma Tradition. Reflections in the center’s windows of the American flag which flies above Alameda’s City Hall across the street are often captured in photographs of the building.

Orgyen Dorje Den,Alameda, California (entrance, Laurie Snyder, © 2011).

Orgyen Dorje Den, Alameda, California (entrance, Laurie Snyder, © 2011).

Established in 1978 by The Venerable Gyatrul Rinpoche for the study and practice of Tibetan Buddhism, members of this Buddhist organization initially rented meeting rooms for gatherings in the Chinatown neighborhoods of San Francisco and Oakland until finding their permanent home in 2001. Thanks to the generosity of an early sponsor, members of the center were able to purchase a building which had served previously Bay Area residents of all faith traditions as the Fowler-Anderson funeral chapel. Located directly across from the Alameda City Hall, this center has been described by many who have meditated here as “a place of refuge.”

Ven. Gyatrul Rinpoche made his way to America in 1972, at the request of His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama, Tenzin Gyatso, to teach others the principles and practices of Vajrayana Buddhism. Identified by Jamyang Khyentse in 1932 as a tulku (a consciously reincarnated spiritual being), Ven. Gyatrul Rinpoche had been born just seven years earlier near the Tibetan border in China’s Sichuan Province.

As the reincarnation of a Payul lineage contemplative who had lived much of his previous life in retreat, he was reinstated as Tulku of Dhomang Monastery in eastern Tibet during a storied time in Tibetan Buddhism’s history. After studying for more than two decades with Tibet’s most revered Lamas, he was forced to flee to India in 1959 when the Chinese government invaded his homeland. (A brief overview of the joys and tribulations of this period in Tibet’s history is presented on the Dalai Lama’s website.)

In 1976, Ven. Gyatrul Rinpoche was appointed by His Holiness Dudjom Rinpoche (1904-1987) to be his spiritual representative and director of the Pacific Region Yeshe Nyingpo. As director, he became a beloved teacher of many, and went on to establish a number of Buddhist centers throughout the United States, including Oregon’s Tashi Choling, Montana’s Namdroling, and Norbu Ling in Austin, Texas.

* Note: The Pacific Region directorship was another position of great honor for Ven. Gyatrul Rinpoche. The superior who appointed him to this role, His Holiness Dudjom Rinpoche, was one of the greatest Buddhist scholars, poets, and masters of meditation of the 20th century, and was the much revered former Supreme Head of the Nyingma Tradition of Tibet Buddhism.

Orgyen Dorje Den, Alameda, California (exterior details, Laurie Snyder, Orgyen Dorje Den, Alameda, California (exterior detail, Laurie Snyder, Orgyen Dorje Den,Alameda, California (entrance, Laurie Snyder, © 2011).

Orgyen Dorje Den, Alameda, California (exterior details, Laurie Snyder, © 2011).

Today, Orgyen Dorje Den continues to offer an active schedule of meditation and mindfulness training, including sessions which are open to all, regardless of practice experience level:

  • Om Mani Padme Hung Recitation and Compassion Meditation (teachings with guided meditations by Lama Drimed on the 1st, 2nd and 4th Mondays of each month);
  • Evening Sitting Meditation (Natural Liberation instruction every other Wednesday from 7 to 9 p.m. by Les Collins, a longtime student of Ven. Gyatrul Rinpoche);
  • Evening Vajrasattva Practice (Pujas led by one of the center’s Lamas every other Thursday from 7 to 9 p.m., and alternating between the Vajrasattva sadhanas, Dorsem Lama Chodpa and Ka-Ter Dorsem; open to all); and
  • Guru Rinpoche Days and Dakini Days (sangha gatherings on the 10th and 25th days of the Lunar calendar to renew samaya commitments through meditations from the Dudjom Tersar tradition on Guru Rinpoche and the Dakini Yeshe Tsogyal).

Each of these programs is designed to enable those who participate to help make our world a kinder and more compassionate one. To learn more about these and other events, visit the center’s website.

 

 

 

Wednesday Wisdom: On Coexistence and Transcendence

Coexist (public domain image)

Coexist Interfaith Image (public domain). 

I Have Learned So Much*

I
Have
Learned
So much from God
That I can no longer
Call
Myself

A Christian, a Hindu, a Muslim,
A Buddhist, a Jew.
The Truth has shared so much of Itself
With me

That I can no longer call myself
A man, a woman, an angel,
Or even pure
Soul.

Love has
Befriended Hafiz so completely
It has turned to ash
And freed
Me

Of every concept and image
My mind has ever known.

– Hafiz

 

 

* Reprinted with permission from The Gift by Daniel Ladinsky, © 1999.

 

 

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